Sahih Muslim Hadith 3690 – Giving One’s Wife

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[3690] 29 – (1478) It was narrated that Jâbir bin 'Abdullâh said: "Abü Bakr came in, seeking permission to enter upon the Messenger of Allah, and he found the people sitting at his door, and they were not given permission to enter. Permission was given to Abü Bakr and he entered. Then 'Umar came and asked for permission, and permission was granted. He found the Messenger of Allah sitting silently, with his wives around him. He said: 'I am going to say something to you which will make the Prophet smile.' He said: '0 Messenger of Allah, if you had seen the daughter of Iiârijah asking me for (more) maintenance, and I got up and poked her on the neck.' The Messenger of Allah ç smiled and said: 'They are around me, as you can see, asking me for (more) maintenance.' Abü Bakr got up and poked 'Aihah on the neck, and 'Umar got up and poked Uafah on the neck, and both of them said: 'Are you asking the Messenger of Allah for that which he does not have?' They said: 'By Allah, we will never ask the Messenger of Allah for something that he does not have.' Then he () stayed away from them for a month or twenty-nine days, then this verse was revealed to him: 0 Prophet! Say to your wives: "If you desire the life of this world, and its glitter, then come! I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner (divorce). But if you desire Allah and His Messenger, and the Home of the Hereafter, then verily, Allah has prepared for Al-Musinâtt1' (good doers) amongst you an enormous reward." He started with 'Aishah. Al-A hzâb 33:28-29. He said: '0 'Aihah, I want to suggest something to you, but I )) :Ji L IL want you not to rush to answer until you consult your parents.' She said: 'What is it, 0 Messenger Ls of Allah?' He recited this verse to her and she said: 'Do I need to consult my parents (concerning you), 0 Messenger of Allah? No, I choose Allah and His Messenger and the Home of the Hereafter. But I ask you not to tell any of your wives what I have said.' He said: 'None of them will ask, but I will tell her. Allah did not send me to make things hard for people in the hope that they would make mistakes, rather He sent me to teach and make things easy." Chapter 5. iia'," Keeping Away From One's Wives And Giving Them The Choice, And The Saying Of Allah, The Most High: "But If You Help One Another Against Him…"[2]